Atlanta Vampire Alliance [AVA]

[Eclecta]

(*Note: This is the first draft of something I am writing. Please feel free to edit it for me, if you want, LOL. I really won't mind. *)

Accepting Our Differences, Revealing Our Natures

We are all different, unique, and eccentric in our own ways. We all share similarities with others, whether it be physical characteristics, the ideas of who we are, or the way we feel things around us. There are many of us who while we are around others, close to others, feel we have to hide our true nature in order to protect ourselves from the pain that we know all to well that comes from revealing to much about ourselves to the wrong people. Being called a freak, an oddball, devil worshipper, crazy, or just plain weird, is something that we all have heard at one time or another.

There have been times that most of us have wished we were someone else, someone normal, someone pink and fluffy, or athletic, or maybe something more. However, we aren’t those people, and we don’t do those things. To be something other than exactly who we are, would mean only that we have denied who we are, and cast out a deep part of our inner being that is screaming for recognition.

As we go through life, more and more people are going to notice who us, and if we do not learn to love ourselves for who we are, then how can we expect others to? A great many of us pride ourselves on being capable of not needing anyone to survive. We are independent; we need no one. We dress in dark colors, we prefer night to day, we sometimes write dark morbid poetry that documents the turmoil we feel in our hearts, and we are reclusive. Of course, not all of us do these things, some cannot, or do not simply because they would rather blend in as best they can, rather than have to answer any questions about why they are as they are…

Being different from society’s social norm can be hard on us. It is no secret that being told you are less than someone else because you don’t do things like everyone else, or that you are abnormal, or being the brunt of some derogatory remark, can take its toll on you. But what can we do?

Revealing to much about yourself to others can single-handedly undermine any potential friendship or relationship you may have with the person to whom you reveal yourself, if that person is not ready willing and able to accept you for who you are, which is precisely the reason so many of us remain secretive about so many aspects of our lives.

To ensure we don’t reveal to much of our inner nature that will be misunderstood by those to whom you would want to reveal yourself to, it is imperative that you come to terms with accepting who you are prior to disclosing to much information.

Accepting yourself as you are can be harder than it sounds. A great many of us seem to struggle with things that are ethical, spiritual, emotional, and physical. With each of these aspects we must find the right combination to unlock who we are meant to be. Our physical self will suffer as a direct result of our neglect to other areas of our lives. . Deciding what is right or wrong and making decisions without thinking about the consequences can end with feelings of guilt over the choices you made can lead to depression or worse. These links to our greater conscious should be understood and nurtured so that we can truly achieve inner peace.

Our parents or caregivers teach ethics to us early on. Many of us later in life will challenge certain things that we were taught was this way or that way. If we are a small child and are told that we must be good so that Santa Claus will come to visit us, as most of us are, then we trust that person who tells us because we do not know any better. Later once we find out that Santa is not real, we may feel betrayed by that little white lie. Small instances like this can lead to other questions such as those about ethics or religion, or many other things. If someone we trust would let us believe in Santa, perhaps they would lead us to believe in other things that are not real. Take religion for another example. If we are told to believe in Christ, but we never see him or hear him speak to us in a loud enough voice for us to hear, we may question if he is really there. When we ask others for proof and they tell us it is only a matter of faith it may make us remember the innocent lie we were told as children about Santa. This seemingly innocent gesture can perhaps cause us to doubt many things in our life that we were taught through the years.

Part of accepting ourselves is learning who we really are and having a good understanding of who we are and why we do the things we do. No one can force us to believe exactly as they do. This is a journey we must endure on our own. Our emotional state can cause us to do things, which we would not normally do, and can cause us to need additional means to cope with situations around us. If we pull energy from other sources, we may feel what we are doing is wrong. We may justify what we are doing at first, but eventually if we do not understand enough about ourselves and what we are doing, we may left feeling as if we have violated our code of ethics.

It is a sometimes-long process of examining ourselves. During these times, we may take a trip alone to collect our thoughts, take long walks, or perhaps study yoga. Relaxation is the key to being able to find your true self. One may also want to write down the questions that they seek to answer about themselves and reread them several times a day. It may take weeks, months, or years to get the exact answers you seek, however.

Once you have sought and answered the questions you had, and then accepted yourself, you should think twice about revealing your nature to others. While it is nice to share a part of yourself with others, many whom we would want to share with simply do not have the capacity to understand who you are because they do not even know themselves. Our community as a whole is often misunderstood.

Putting trust in another being about your true self leaves you in a vulnerable position. As we grow up from our childhood we are often left with the knowledge of just how cruel others can be. Knowing this leaves us longing for someone to understand and accept us for who we have accepted ourselves to be, but may frighten us about outing our inner self to another . But choosing those carefully that we would reveal who we are to should be done with utmost care.

It is no secret that the main reason most of us do not just publicly announce that which makes us different is because we would be thought insane by some, believed to be worshippers of the devil, or worse. It is also no secret that mainstream society no longer believes in anything metaphysical. Therefore, choosing to reveal yourself to someone who is only going to question your sanity can be less than favorable.

Those who are open-minded about things such as ghosts or pagan beliefs may be more receptive that others. There is no sure way to know who will accept you and who will not. It is best to ask yourself questions about various different outcomes that are less than desirable prior to revealing anything.

Some of us spend years trying to find a way to explain who we are to our family and friends. Others decide that they never want to have to explain who they are to anyone. If we do choose to take the chance to open up to family or friends, we should do so knowing that if we are rejected by them, that it may cause a rift in that relationship from that point on. Carefully deciding whether or not to take that risk is a decision only you can make, so it is important to take the time necessary to choose wisely. It can be helpful to weigh out your options. Always keep in mind that once you have said something you can’t simply take it back. Paying attention to the subtle clues about the person whom you wish to confide in may save your feelings later.

Accepting and revealing yourself to everyone, you know or meet is not necessary. If you take the time to find others like yourself, you may not feel that yearning to be so open with others. Often times, those feelings that keep you on the edge thinking you should tell others about who you are, dissipate once you find someone who can truly understand how you feel because they feel them too.

-Eclecta
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"Love is the law, love under will."

[prince dax]

they are many things about what we are that we learn to except i my self am still learnning as i learn more about past lives and who they were just this past weekend i have learned even more about my self and new abilities that i'm learnning to use

as far as telling others about what i am i trust very few only one person know almost everything about me