Otherkin & Belonging (Society Rejection/Blending-In)

[onelight]

Last night I told my friend what I am and I found out that she is a witch. It was a good night.

[Removed]

That is  so true I had to learn that the hard way and man ' did it take for ever but i finally getting that fact.

Isn't it more special that way though?

I've been trying to think of a new name IRL for a while now. I settled on picking an average 1st and last name, and my middle name would be the unique and strange sounding name. People have a habit of calling you names that stand out. People always called me by my last name, and it was so polish that no one could pronounce it correctly. So by using my middle name, only certain few people will know it and will address me by that out of respect of friendship.

I think it's very similar here.

[wicthdragon]

I agree and it dose make it better.

[paindancer]

(trippy finding a post by me but not.. OMG.. past life posting!)

I suppose, its easy to become obsessed with our differences, than our surroundings.  When we find common ground.. its an amazing time.

[belovedofdeath]

Last night I told my friend what I am and I found out that she is a witch. It was a good night.

similar: i told my close friend about my sang habits, so to speak, and i found out that she comes from a line of energy workers!

[RKCoon]

Old topic but I thought Id chime in.

Being raccoon - an animal that has proven its ability to adept to humanity and survive rather well in suburbia - I find my kin side has very little effect on blending in, aside of the whole 'being different' bit. I do tend to stick out some, sure, but the raccoon side isnt noticeable from outside. I would go further and say that me being a raccoon makes my life easier than say a heavily predatorial animal, ie wolf etc, as Im not quick to get violent and harsh, as I have seen such kin get. Further, being that my kin is so readily adaptable and able to figure out what the hell humanity is doing, I can navigate and get along with it rather well. My vamp side easily can cause far more grief than my therian -- IF i let it. I dont advertise what i am, i dont feel a need to advertise what I am, I am quite happy blending in and laughing about it the entire time.

[Taris]

Came across this topic and thought Id lend some thought myself.

I have felt the same sense of not being able to comprehend the society around us and why people do what they do. I have felt the feeling of not fitting in since I was young(Say maybe 10 or so). Its difficult to cope with as I still to this day feel there is some difference between me and the others around me. That I am some oddity that walks within some realm foriegn to me. I do attribute this to the fact that I classify myself Other-kin. I also attribute this to the way I think which is normally outside of what people focus on. Those who have this feeling early on make it difficult during the earlier years of life. Personally I have found that I can adapt and fit in whereas I am not seen as odd but never fully have the feeling that I am part of the group I have so readily adapted to. Its a bother to say the least but those who feel it live with it or decide to seek solitude. Those who seek to adapt and live with those who they dont fit, to become a part of the society in which they see themselves never fully a part of I wish the best.

[paindancer]

for me, knowing its a game, or a role, helps.

I am here to be effectual.  Separating myself from the world around me does not help that.  Certainly, I may not think the same way that I do.  I certainly find my creative methods to cope and deal.  (not a whole lot of high level engineers who are fetish performers for example)

[masticina]

The wolf is not a fighter unless it needs to fight. Rough and though when needed but overall also great in families and a wolf soul will adopt a family it will try to protect. Honor and Respect reign high amongst the values the wolf spirit likes... something the traitorous humans have lost.

If in a group of people the wolf side leads me to keep an eye on all. To ensure they are all as safe as possible.. not always easy if a group breaks up of course.  I retain as much of my humanity as I can as this life I am a human. It is that simple.

My friends find me able, helpful and loyal. And those who abuse such get a warning to be out of my way because it is not only a wolf they have to deal with..

[fallen.from.zero]

The wolf and I share a personality and I prefer to think of us as one being rather than separate entities for the most part.  The one person who knows would be my girlfriend, and she is extremely supportive of me, which is amazing.  I am extremely loyal to the people I trust and would protect them until the end of time.  The one thing most of my friends at college fail to understand is that, once you lose my trust and/or respect, it's hard to gain back.. not that any of them care enough.

The largest issue I have is that I have a set of values on rules that I live by, but with the people I'm surrounded by now, they're trying to break everything that I live by down, which I just can't do.  The wolf can either be a loner or stay in a pack, but when it's surrounded by people it can't trust, all it wants is to run or fight.  I try to hold onto my humanity as much as possible, but most of the time, I side with the wolf rather than what is typical for humanity.  Thus, it's always a struggle for me.

One last note:  I knew of the wolf within me since I can remember, but didn't fully realize/accept it until I was at least 12.  So since I can't really pinpoint an exact time when I awakened as a therian, I have lived my entire life thus far in a way that both gives as much freedom to the wolf as possible while still acting as "normal" as I can.

[Danielle]

I think a lot of that has do to with youth, not just the feelings of not fitting in because of the difference in psychology and feelings etc, but everyone has the feel and want to be accepted. It's just about finding the people who can accept you for who are, not caring what other people think of you. If they can't accept you as you are why bother caring and trying to change to please them? What does acting out accomplish other than proving that you care what they think and so try to make a statement, "Look at me I'm different! Accept me!" Just be you, and people who are like you will find you, understand you, accept you and you avoid all the bullshit in between